-ddr adik-

PEOPLE COME INTO YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

..naks! ue-

Why Don’t Men Talk Like Women Do?

By David Zinczenko

From his book, "Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User’s Guide for Women"

Updated: May 28, 2007

Here’s a great irony: Men, in general, are happy in
their relationships. And yet women — the very people responsible for making
guys so happy — spend a great deal of time fretting over whether their men
want to stay in the relationship or are waiting to catch the next bus out of
it. Indeed, women spend so much time fretting that they often ask men to talk
more about … gasp! … their feelings. And the one thing that can make a
contented guy discontented is being asked to talk about his feelings. It’s like
cooking up a great souffle, and then opening the oven to check on it — and
presto, the souffle goes flat.

 

It’s not that you should never ask a man about his feelings.
But it’s all about technique: you need to coax him to that place where he can
share; pushing him just makes him stubborn.

 

Don’t use the f-word

 

The problem for a lot of guys is that talking feelings with
a woman is like talking French with a native Parisian. No matter how hard we
study, we’ll never master the language with quite the same fluency. So you need
to make things a little simpler for us.

 

From our end, we’d prefer that you don’t directly ask about
the "f-word" — feelings.

Say the word feelings to a man and it’s
like clipping your toenails during a striptease — total turn-off. The reason?
We have feelings, but we don’t have the access to them that you do. So every
conversation that’s pointedly about our feelings seems to us like the last 15
minutes of "Law & Order," where we’re the perp and you’re the
clever detective, poking a finger in our face and hinting that you know just a
little more than we do. And you do know a little more than we do. You know how
you feel. And we don’t know how we feel. So if you want us to talk, then help
us speak your language — by speaking a little of ours.

 

The point: If you want us to answer questions about what
we’re feeling, then stop asking about how we’re feeling. Instead, watch how we
behave, and where our interests lie. And be open about your feelings. The more
you show comfort in expressing yourself, the more he’ll do the same.

 

How do I know where the relationship is going?

 

I feel like I’ve hit a snag in a relationship with my
boyfriend. We’ve been seeing each other for a few months. Everything was really
great in the beginning. Now, it seems like we’ve fallen into that typical
relationship routine. We see each other during the week, rent a movie on Fridays,
and usually have sex twice a week (once after the movie). He’s nice to me and
treats me well, but I’d like to get things back to where they were. He tells me
everything’s fine, assures me he cares about me, and tells me not to worry
about it. But I still do because what he says is one thing but what happens
week to week is another. Any idea what he’s thinking?

 

Yeah. He’s thinking exactly what he’s saying, which is that
everything’s fine. " Women think that not talking about the relationship
means there are problems, but it’s the opposite for men. If we’re not talking
about it, it means we’re happy," says Conner, 32. So the real question is
not "What’s he thinking?" It’s "What are you thinking?" If
you’re content with the relationship you’ve got, then relax and enjoy it. And
if you want more, say so. "If a man loves a woman, he’ll prove it with
daily action not just words," says Jimmy, 27. Either he’ll step up to the
plate, or what he’s giving now is all he’s got — and maybe you need to move
on.

 

Why don’t guys answer emotional questions?

 

I’ve got a good friend who recently left her husband. They
have one child who’s eight, and my friend and her ex are now in this bitter
disagreement about custody, about money, about who gets to see the daughter
when. When I told my husband about it, I asked him how he felt about it,
because these are really serious issues, and I figured he’d have really serious
thoughts on them. Instead, he just sat there, shrugged his shoulders, and said,
"That sucks." Does the man have no feelings?

 

Of course he has feelings, and he told you what they were:
He feels the situation sucks. Oh, but wait … you were looking for something
more. Here’s the problem: You wanted him to tune into your concerns, but the
signal you were sending was fuzzier than a pirate radio station. It’s the old
"feelings" conundrum again. If you want to ask him how he’d handle a
custody issue, then ask him how he’d handle a custody issue. If you want to
know if he thinks it’s wrong for one partner to give up on a marriage, then ask
him about that. But don’t ask him about his feelings and expect him to surmise
that your telling him a story about the neighbors is some Aesop’s fable for
your relationship. "We’re simple. Please, no hints or assumptions,"
says D.J., 26. "Say what you mean, mean what you say. Don’t make us guess
as if we know what you are trying to say or feel."

 

D.J.’s a bit of a wishful thinker. Just as men like direct,
problem A/solution B equations, women seem to take a more poetic and
metaphorical approach to communication. That’s why communication between the
sexes is so much work. To men, dealing with hypotheticals is fun when we’re
talking about pennant races and the stock market, not when you’re asking us to
project how we’d feel about anything really serious, like a breakup or
infidelity or pizza toppings. In that case, direct questions will get you the
answers you want: let’s stay together, I’ll be faithful forever, and no
anchovies, please.

 

Why can’t a guy just plan out our future?

 

My husband and I have two kids, a boy and a girl, ages three
and six. I’m tired of taking the pill, so I’ve tried talking to my husband
about other options. Specifically, I asked him if he wanted more kids. (I could
go either way.) And if he didn’t, then we should talk about a vasectomy. But he
can’t decide whether he wants more children, and he doesn’t seem too thrilled
with the idea of getting the vasectomy. Why doesn’t he just tell me what he
wants so then we can come up with some kind of game plan?

 

Your question contains this interesting phrase: "I
could go either way." It sounds like you and your husband are both
comfortable in a pair of flip-flops. In our polls and surveys, we’ve asked men
about the vasectomy issue. John, 41, has been talking about a vasectomy with
his wife, but they’re having trouble getting at the root of who really wants to
do what. "Neither of us will come right out and say we’re done having
kids. She thinks me not signing right up for the operation somehow means that I
have this evil master plan: that if I dump her, I’ll be able to have kids with
some 22-year-old bimbo. But I just don’t want to get one, because neither of us
have closed the door on having kids, and if she’s up for it, I’m up for
it."

 

The fact is that men hate admitting that they don’t have a
plan, and with complex issues like this, it’s hard for a guy to decide,
unilaterally, the rest of both your lives. He’s going to flip and flop like a
beached sea bass until he knows for certain. And then, one day, he’s just going
to announce his decision.I know, it’s hard living with us. Just don’t try
living without us.

 

Masculinity mastered: what you now know about men

• "Feelings" is
       our f-word. Bleep it out of your conversational repertoire. Try
       pointed questions like "What do you think about…."
• We feel everything’s okay
       when we’re not talking about feelings. When we’re talking about feelings,
       we feel everything’s on the rocks.
• Backed into a corner,
       we won’t let you into our heads. Give us some space and we’ll let you in.

Say this tonight!

• The sexiest thing a
       woman ever said to Dale, 32: "What would you like for
       breakfast?"
• The sexiest thing
       Tricia, 28, ever said to a man: "I wish I could have you."

Say this, not that!

• Say this: "What
       do you think about that?"
• Not: "How do
       you feel about that?"
• Because: He knows
       how to answer the first question, but the second one makes him nervous.

• Say this: "I
       wish I could say this in a way that makes more sense to you."
• Not: "You don’t
       understand me."
• Because:
       Miscommunication is a two-way street.

• Say this:
       "Let’s go for a drive."
• Not: "Let’s sit
       down and talk."
• Because: Men are
       less tense when they’re doing something physical.

• Say anything: Once
• Not: Ten times
• Because: To a guy,
       repetition makes a statement meaningless.

What it means when….

• He says, "I
       love you" for the first time (not during sex).
• He does. And he
       thought it long before he ever said it.

• He says,
       "Fine," in response to a question about how his day was.
• Fine. If something
       significant happened, he’ll tell you — in a few hours.

• He says,
       "Five," when you ask him how many women he’s slept with.
• Twelve.

Wondering woman

Why is it so hard for guys to write a personal message in a
birthday card? Every year all I get is "Love, Jim."  Five
minutes on the way back from the drugstore doesn’t give a whole lot of time to
come up with something clever. Plus, he’d rather let a nice dinner and a show
do the talking for him.

Male mysteries

• 27: Percentage of
       men who say they primarily fight with their wives or girlfriends about the
       fact that they don’t share or talk about their feelings.
• 65: Percentage of
       men who don’t want their partners to ask more questions about them.

Excerpted by permission from "Men, Love & Sex,
The Complete User’s Guide for Women" by David Zinczenko with Ted Spiker;
Rodale, 2006

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will fall into places. pwede rin into pieces. and all fell into places.

-Forgive for Your Best 2007
Posted by Dr. Laura Berman
on Tue, Jan 02, 2007, 4:14 pm PST

Alexander Pope famously wrote: "To err is human; to forgive is divine."

It couldn’t be truer — and forgiveness is the way to your best year ahead.

Forgiveness is good for you, for your relationships and for your world. How?

   

        *When you let go of anger, your body registers the difference. Cortisol levels drop off. Your blood pressure goes down, your heart works more efficiently, your immunity goes up and your brain works better. Cortisol is the agent of much disease and aging. One simple choice can lower it.

   
        *Cleaning out your resentment and bitterness also perks up your emotional health. Study after study finds that people who master forgiveness feel less negative, less angry and more in control than those who replay and hold fast to their hurt.

   
        *When we remove one thing from our lives, we always make room for another. It’s a law of nature or karma or religion. Whatever you believe, when anger is gone, love flows in. Research has shown that those who forgive a significant wrong from their past experience more loving and committed relationships now.

The future is here. Learn to forgive and discover a better life. For help with forgiving, visit a licensed therapist, take guided meditation and yoga lessons, or connect with your priest or rabbi. Forgiveness takes work-you can’t just say it, you have to live it. But once you’ve let the sentiment in, you won’t want to stop.

source: http://health.yahoo.com/experts/sexualhealing/4308/forgive-for-your-best-2007;_ylt=ArZS4lpNuJxLlDl7jMcxBg1kWtAF

…ooohkei… i forgive you… you know who you are. hahaha… >:) -sam- -ue-

marco (4/3/2007 11:07:25 PM): hoi!

ue (4/3/2007 11:07:36 PM): hoi ka rin! unggoy. unsa man? L-)

marco (4/3/2007 11:07:56 PM): nag dako lang imong ulo b!

ue (4/3/2007 11:08:04 PM): kay? /:)

marco (4/3/2007 11:08:38 PM): naga gara ka kay gina sagdan
lang ka namo pag naga dako imong ulo!

ue (4/3/2007 11:09:00 PM): NAMO? wow. faaaayn… feeler ka…

marco (4/3/2007 11:09:37 PM): gina badlong lang taka kay
konamix kaya pag tarong na dong!

ue (4/3/2007 11:09:53 PM): kung dili?

marco (4/3/2007 11:10:26 PM): i dont know… ewan ko lang sa
kanila…

ue (4/3/2007 11:10:30 PM): ok.

marco (4/3/2007 11:10:37 PM): la na koi labot! basta pag
tarong na daw

ue (4/3/2007 11:10:53 PM): tarong man ko.

marco (4/3/2007 11:11:04 PM): dili kaya.. plastic man gani
ka!

ue (4/3/2007 11:11:11 PM): naa kay proof?

ue (4/3/2007 11:11:13 PM): .

marco (4/3/2007 11:11:20 PM): naa

ue (4/3/2007 11:11:23 PM): sige daw…

marco (4/3/2007 11:11:26 PM): :p

marco (4/3/2007 11:11:38 PM): basta naa.. kadaghan naka
kita…

ue (4/3/2007 11:11:40 PM):  L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:11:47 PM): waaah… faaayn… ok lang.

marco (4/3/2007 11:11:58 PM): 8-l

marco (4/3/2007 11:12:21 PM): basta pag tarong na ba..
piliian kayo kag amigo.. baba kayo imong tan-aw sa amo..

ue (4/3/2007 11:12:34 PM): inyo? kinsang inyo?  /:)

marco (4/3/2007 11:12:45 PM): basta apil na ko didto..

ue (4/3/2007 11:13:06 PM): dili gud ko pilian…

ue (4/3/2007 11:13:11 PM): aw. basig ikaw lang. :))

marco (4/3/2007 11:13:20 PM): dili? pero daghan nag ingun..

ue (4/3/2007 11:13:29 PM): aw. let them. la koy mabuhat ana

marco (4/3/2007 11:13:39 PM): kinsa ba dili maulain sa gio
himo nimo sa ako? huh!?

ue (4/3/2007 11:13:48 PM): unsa akong gihimo nimo?

marco (4/3/2007 11:14:07 PM): naa kay mabuhat kay ikaw ang
wala naga tarng!

marco (4/3/2007 11:14:16 PM): atik2 pa.. gago

ue (4/3/2007 11:14:25 PM): uuuy… nagmumura… seryoso…

marco (4/3/2007 11:14:35 PM): BRB s.. nanawag akong uyab saq
phone..

ue (4/3/2007 11:14:54 PM): la man koy sala ana kung naa may
inferiorities ang ubang tao sa akoa… naa ra man nah sa tao.

marco (4/3/2007 11:18:35 PM): pero pag tarong pud kay
konamix imog gina away.. barkada baya nato tanan konamix..

ue (4/3/2007 11:18:54 PM): paunsa man nako ginaaway ang
konamix :-/

ue (4/3/2007 11:19:05 PM): im confused

marco (4/3/2007 11:19:19 PM): di man sa nag mumura.. gina
ingnan taka kay amigo tah… kahit lain ka mag trato sako, naga adjust ko..

marco (4/3/2007 11:19:38 PM): dili man gina away.. gina
trato..

ue (4/3/2007 11:19:43 PM): uy. kung unsa lang imong
treatment sa akoa, same lang pud ko.

marco (4/3/2007 11:19:50 PM): ang uban members sa konamix,
lain ka maka trato

ue (4/3/2007 11:19:59 PM): ok. ok. rephrase… unsa ang
akong pag trato sa konamix?

marco (4/3/2007 11:20:29 PM): dili konamix.. members lang

ue (4/3/2007 11:20:42 PM): aw. sige gud… for example?
besides sa imo

marco (4/3/2007 11:20:59 PM): plastic ka mag trato sa uban..
pAreho atong nag action kag apper sa ako.. nalain ko sa imo ato b

ue (4/3/2007 11:21:10 PM): aw. maoba? ngano man?

ue (4/3/2007 11:21:21 PM): sige daw, paunsa daw ma-plastik?
kay kinsa? im :-/

marco (4/3/2007 11:21:44 PM): sa ako ug secret n sa uban

ue (4/3/2007 11:21:56 PM): aw. faaayn… have it your own way
then

marco (4/3/2007 11:22:30 PM): baba kayo ka maka tan-aw sa
amo kay kita lang among nawong pero dapat tarungun nimo kay tao gihapon mi..

marco (4/3/2007 11:23:28 PM): (:l

ue (4/3/2007 11:23:35 PM): huh? you know, you’re being
hysterical. and judgemental. jumping into conclusions.

ue (4/3/2007 11:23:47 PM): char. affected ka? inferiority
complex.

marco (4/3/2007 11:24:16 PM): yeah… deretcho jud ko mag
sturya..

marco (4/3/2007 11:24:33 PM): xampre1 amigo pud daw nako
imong gina banga! kami, gina banga nimo!

ue (4/3/2007 11:24:33 PM): ganiman… ok lang man. diretso
lagi pero ym man sad.

ue (4/3/2007 11:24:43 PM): faaayn…

marco (4/3/2007 11:25:17 PM): kay di ko gustog sturyahon
takag harap-harapan kay kataw-an ko nimo.. kablo na ko sa style nimo

ue (4/3/2007 11:25:38 PM): aw. maoba? naks. pwede man sad
magkatawa sa ym. ——–>:))

ue (4/3/2007 11:25:42 PM): :))

marco (4/3/2007 11:26:30 PM): :l

marco (4/3/2007 11:26:34 PM): unya?

ue (4/3/2007 11:26:43 PM): kato lang. para walay difference

marco (4/3/2007 11:27:01 PM): hambogiro man ka sam ui.. high
level ang pagka hambogiro nimo..

ue (4/3/2007 11:27:19 PM): unsa akong gihambug? :-/

marco (4/3/2007 11:27:33 PM): basig gusto ka lampasan nako
ang pagka hambog nimo.. kaya kaayo na nako.. =)) wala ui.. atik ra gani!

ue (4/3/2007 11:27:50 PM): aw. sabagay… ok ra.

marco (4/3/2007 11:28:08 PM): parang inamin m na rin

ue (4/3/2007 11:28:12 PM): na?

marco (4/3/2007 11:28:23 PM): wala

ue (4/3/2007 11:28:38 PM): aw. ok.

marco (4/3/2007 11:29:25 PM): basta pag tarong na ba..

ue (4/3/2007 11:29:29 PM): kay ngano?

marco (4/3/2007 11:29:43 PM): ngil-ad kayo kag batasan kaya
ngano!

ue (4/3/2007 11:29:44 PM): tarong man ko.

ue (4/3/2007 11:29:54 PM): aw. maayo pa ka kabalo ana…

marco (4/3/2007 11:30:21 PM): tarong mulang! tarong sa uban!

ue (4/3/2007 11:30:35 PM): aw. tarong lagi ko.

ue (4/3/2007 11:30:52 PM): i mean, tarong man ko.

ue (4/3/2007 11:31:03 PM): basig ikaw ang dapat mag
tarong…

marco (4/3/2007 11:31:05 PM): tarong na?

ue (4/3/2007 11:31:12 PM): tarong na tarong.

marco (4/3/2007 11:31:42 PM): :)) sa damgo cguro nimo

ue (4/3/2007 11:31:53 PM): ohkei.

marco (4/3/2007 11:33:11 PM): bantay bitaw!

ue (4/3/2007 11:33:18 PM): korny.

ue (4/3/2007 11:33:23 PM): naa koy question

marco (4/3/2007 11:35:15 PM): unsa man?

ue (4/3/2007 11:35:24 PM): nganong LOSER ka? L-)

marco (4/3/2007 11:35:58 PM): ungang loser? basig looser?

marco (4/3/2007 11:36:05 PM): mali man ka dong!

ue (4/3/2007 11:36:12 PM): hahaha… dili lang man diay ka
loser. bugo man diay ka.

ue (4/3/2007 11:36:14 PM): L-)

marco (4/3/2007 11:36:20 PM): d ko looser.. kaw ra ang nag
ingun ana sako..

marco (4/3/2007 11:36:36 PM): hahay.. kahangin!

ue (4/3/2007 11:36:49 PM): aw. ako lang siguro nakapansin.
or… ako lang ang naay guts na mag ingon nimo. anyway, uliton nako. nganong
LOSER ka? L-) <——-ing.ana

ue (4/3/2007 11:36:55 PM): naa kay dictionary?

ue (4/3/2007 11:37:31 PM): loser loser [lzər] (plural
losers) noun 1. somebody who has not won: a person or team that has failed to
win a particular contest 2. somebody unsuccessful or unlucky: somebody who is
unsuccessful or unlucky and seems destined to fail repeatedly Microsoft®
Encarta® Premium Suite 2005. © 1993-2004 Microsoft Corporation. All rights
reserved. :))

ue (4/3/2007 11:37:43 PM): murag wala jud looser sa
dictionary bah.

marco (4/3/2007 11:37:55 PM): =; talk to the hand

ue (4/3/2007 11:38:38 PM): loser

marco (4/3/2007 11:38:45 PM): ai ambot! samok.. gabaan ra ka
sa gi himo nimo sako..

ue (4/3/2007 11:38:54 PM): unsa akong gihimo nimo? feeler.

marco (4/3/2007 11:38:59 PM): suck my midle finger u ass!

ue (4/3/2007 11:39:17 PM): tinuod bitaw… walay LOOSER na
word sa dicitonary.

marco (4/3/2007 11:39:32 PM): amot lang!

ue (4/3/2007 11:39:54 PM): marco: suck my midle finger u ass!
<—-ing.ani jud ang mga losers.

marco (4/3/2007 11:40:27 PM): (:l

marco (4/3/2007 11:40:41 PM): 8-x

marco (4/3/2007 11:40:52 PM): :-@

marco (4/3/2007 11:41:02 PM): ambot nimo ui.. matulog na
ko..

marco (4/3/2007 11:41:16 PM): gago jud ka1 walay pinag bago!

marco (4/3/2007 11:41:43 PM): b-(

marco (4/3/2007 11:41:51 PM): [-x

ue (4/3/2007 11:41:57 PM): hahaha… sige2x…

marco (4/3/2007 11:41:59 PM): ambot.. matulog na ko

ue (4/3/2007 11:42:13 PM): ay. marco… naa koy iingon.
last. not about you being a loser.

marco (4/3/2007 11:42:27 PM): unsa naman sad??????????

ue (4/3/2007 11:43:02 PM): ala lang… makiramdam ka lang sa
paligid. kay kung backstabber ka, daghan pud backstabbers sa gilid2x. gets nimo? hahaha… :))

marco (4/3/2007 11:43:39 PM): ay, wa koi labot kay kung
anaon ko nila, anaon sad nako si;a

ue (4/3/2007 11:43:43 PM): hahaha… :))

marco (4/3/2007 11:43:44 PM): *sila

ue (4/3/2007 11:43:45 PM): kinsang sila?

ue (4/3/2007 11:44:34 PM): uy. marco. defense mechanism ra
man na nimo… pero sige lang… who knows?! daghan tao naga tiis lang nimo…

ue (4/3/2007 11:44:44 PM): syempre… no choice eh.

ue (4/3/2007 11:44:48 PM): ana man pud ko. hahaha

marco (4/3/2007 11:44:52 PM): what ever!

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:14 PM): sige2x… tulog na… loser… L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:22 PM): i hope you’d do better next time. :))

marco (4/3/2007 11:45:33 PM): ikaw sad!

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:39 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:39 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:40 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:41 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:41 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:41 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:42 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:42 PM): loser.  L-) goodnight loser L-)

ue (4/3/2007 11:45:42 PM): loser.  L-)goodnight loser L-)

***marco logged out

…anyway, his(?) ym add is marco_luigi08
…marco is currently having a battle with himself - deciding whether he’s a he or he’s a she… uh… am i making sense here? hahaha… >:)
…i gave the above conversation a little thought coz maybe, just maybe, some (if not all) of it were true. are true? and will always be true? hahaha… who knows?!
…good luck!!!

-sam-

yes! ok na… return of the comeback na to! hahaha… good luck sa ating lahat. you know what i mean. good luck sa atin.